Rakham is a revealed divine attribute. Like any non-technical term it has outlier uses, but at its center it’s love with a note of affection, and affection with a note of being blind to or looking past anything that would count against the affection. So the rakham of the father makes him run out to his prodigal son, either not seeing or seeing past all that the older son sees in him; the rakham of Joseph makes him forget all that his brothers had done to him and weep to see his brother Benjamin again; and the rakham of the true mother of the child in the story of Solomon’s judgment makes her prefer giving her child away to letting him die.
That last example spotlights what is central to rakham, though to make the point we have to wade into the stupifying darkness of modern political controversy. One of the reasons for women choose abortion over adoption is that they prefer termination to the emotional pain of having to grow a child within one’s own body only to give it away to another. One can neither make light of this pain nor fail to notice that preferring to end the life of another rather than endure a heartbreak oneself is exactly the choice rejected by the true mother in Solomon’s test.
Seen from this angle, rakham is an absorption in the goodness of another to the point of the forgetfulness of one’s own desires or interests. Here again motherhood seems to be the paradigm for rakham: in her absorption with the life of another the woman is to some extent made forgetful of morning sickness, vulnerability, inability to pursue career-fulfillment, labor, the loss of youthful figure, isolation from friends, (and, yes, even the possibility of having to give the child away to be raised by another). Applied to divinity, rakham is integral to God’s saving mission, which takes its point of departure from those who offend and detract from the manifestation of his glory.
Divine rakham seems to argue for universalism, and the universalist is correct that divine love can’t go from overlooking sins to suddenly pouring out this wrath upon sinners. I’ve argued in the past that grace simply can’t be given after death, and so divine wrath against the damned is a metaphor for the impossibility of grace, but there seems to be an element more a propos to the matter at hand. God saves through his rakham, which is a certain losing oneself in the goodness of the object of love. It follows that God can’t act as though the choices of the person can be disregarded and a soul can be saved as though its own choices did not matter. While it is obviously true that God can give grace to everyone in life, this is to consider only his power in abstraction from the formal character of the salvific act through rakham, consisting as it does in a kind of forgetfulness of oneself in the face of another. What I’ve said here obviously doesn’t rise to the level of refuting universalism, but it points to an interesting set of considerations.