Things that No One Expects a Modern Psychologist to Say
Your marriage is falling apart because of your addiction to pornography.
You want to get a divorce. This should never be done for any reason.
You need to spank your kids more often.
A home with a mother and father is better than any other possible home.
Your first priority should be having children and raising them well.
Prayer and fasting can help someone in your situation.
Why is it that no one expects any modern psychologist to say these sorts of things, even though it is given that they do relate to the sorts of things that Psychologists and marriage counselors are concerned with? (i.e. a good marriage, and child raising.)
(pick one or more)
1.) All the things said above are simply false, which modern psychology has proven to the satisfaction of educated men. Some of the things may be false all the time, or perhaps they are false in all but a few exceptions that prove the rule, but all the above opinions have been in some way considered and refuted. (option: this is only the case for some of the above, and the others are explained by some other reason.)
[then any group or sect that advocates any one of these as true must be false and harmful to mental health. Given that a good number of these positions are advocated by many people, and have been in the past all but universal, why is it that so few of these people have, or had, serious mental illness?]
2.) These opinions were rejected because they were not helpful. Perhaps they’re true, or perhaps they’re not, but we cannot ask anyone to do them because they would either be too difficult to do, or they would in some way end up causing more harm than good.
[but isn't the very idea of therapy to help people to do things they would find too difficult to do without help?]
3.) No, the problem with these opinions is that they don’t sound scientific. Any one who says things like that sounds like a stogy old traditionalist or a religious kook. But neither of these people sound scientific, and the modern psychologist derives all of his authority from sounding like a scientist.
[but then how is psychology anything more than witch-doctoring? Who cares how something sounds if it is not true, or what something true might sound like?]
4.) No, the problem with these opinions is that they are too absolutist. None of them are the sorts of things that work in all or most cases.
[this is just a polite way of calling them false, or a way of avoiding an answer as to whether the positions are true or false.]
5.) No, the real problem is that no man can live according to the truth of the above propositions, or do them well, without the help of God. But psychology is entirely about what man can do by his own power.
[A plausible opinion. When Christ told the apostles that divorce, for example, was always wrong, they responded that if a man couldn't get divorced, he should never marry in the first place- they saw divorce as all but inevitable. Christ does not deny this, but does give a qualification "All men cannot accept this, except those to whom it is given." Without grace, in other words, the apostles are right. Mt 19: 9-12 This reading of the text also help us understand what Christ meant when he said "Moses allowed divorce, because of your hardness of heart" (i.e. the law before the law of grace)
6.) No, the real problem is that all these things sound like religious or traditionalist positions, and psychology hates religion and tradition. It would rather be modern than right, even if the positions above are correct. God and tradition are an albatross around the neck of anyone who is trying to live a good modern life and enjoy all the goodies of sexual liberation, fantasy world construction, infinite rights, and eternal adolescence. Psychology is nothing other than the science that sprung up to obfuscate the problems that pop up when someone lives an immoral life- to paper the problems over with platitudes and hollow nostrums about self fulfillment and self esteem.
[Then why is it that so many people become psychologists because they want to help people? Is our world so messed up that a person can delude himself into thinking that he is helping someone, when in fact he is simply avoiding the real problems that they have?]